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Lil Money, Big Goals

Plan, Plan, Plan…

Long time no post. Yup, I’ve been missing in action. Too much going on, life has been busy. Im lying, I’ve been working like crazy. Too much. And it’s taken a toll on my mood and hobbies.

I’m not sure what your life looks like but let me tell you, mine has been crazy. And not only crazy but stressful. Ever since I became separated I’ve been focused on setting and achieving my goals. And now I feel overwhelmed. Extremely overwhelmed because I am trying to accomplish alot with very little.

My goals? Higher credit score, debt payoff and a better paying job. Oh yeah, and finish school. And all of this while keeping up with my bills and sanity.

Im currently debating whether I should invest on a resume writter. I feel like the chances of landing a better job rest on a good and updated resume. What do you think? Is it worth it?

I consider this an investment because it’s the only way I can justify such an expense. I am not joking when I say that I live by my budget. I’m not playing about my goals and so every penny counts. But Lord, it’s hard. Im sure I’m not the only one going through this so if you’re on a budget then you know how difficult it is to justify the expenditure of unplanned costs. It’s a pain.

Because of this stress, I have been focused on working and saving my money so as to be able to deal with unexpected costs (investments). And due to this, I’ve been away from my blog. Plus, I get tired of the random messages about follows/creepy requests so I kinda stayed away from the scene.

Tonight though, it felt like a night to type a few words together and let my mind speak for itself. My brain is overworked and tired. My body is tired, hell my soul is tired.

I don’t know where you are on your journey but let me say this: you got this, we got this. The trick is to remain focused and positive. While there’s alot to deal with, there’s still alot more to be thankful for. So just take a deep breath and get it done.

Til next time, stay safe and kind.

MJ Jones

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With or Without

Feeling broken after a marriage separation is ok

Well, last night was tough.

I literally had a breakdown while trying to wrap a few presents for my adult children. I was in a good mood or at least I thought so, little did I know that the gift wrapping and christmas music would be my undoing.

As I have mentioned before, my marriage is not doing well and its been a hard last few weeks. I am trying to stay positive and still can’t manage it. I love my husband and leaving our marriage was a hard decision but a necessary one. Our fights were becoming more frequent and over simple issues. I was feeling unappreciated and taken for granted. So I left.

However, this has been a tough pill to swallow. Even though I am aware that this change was needed it still hurts. And it hurts terribly. I do hope he seeks therapy, so that he can fix his issues and possibly fix our marriage.

We are blessed to be able to communicate and still spend time with each other with out fighting. There’s no animosity just pain, from both sides. I know he hurts for the loss of our marriage and hope he will find help and put the work into fixing himself while I do the same. We both need professional help.

Last night though, I felt so empty and almost like I was in mourning. I felt a huge sense of loss and despair. I was angry and feeling defeated because this situation was not what I had planned for, especially right before the holidays. I got in the shower and cried it out. I felt my heart breaking and physically hurting from the pain. I was a mess.

And thats another thing I have to acknowledge; my pain. It is ok to feel this bad after a marriage separation. No one gets married thinking that they will divorce. No one. So this is very hard to deal with, especially because I love him and I know he loves me.

So, we will try to get help and gets this mess sorted out but in the meantime I will allow myself to feel, to cry and to plan for tomorrow. With or without him. I pray my life makes a turn for the better and soon. Take care.

MJ Jones

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Food choices and Bariatric Surgery

“Let thy food be thy medicine, and medicine be thy food” – Hippocrates

Obesity, the silent killer everyone sees but no one speaks about. Obesity, the reason for my drastic choice. To succeed I must learn to first: respect and appreciate real good food.

It has been a long while since my last post. I have been busy trying to adjust to my new life after Gastric Sleeve Surgery. To say that it was a big change is an absolute understatement.

Not only is this a physical change but also a mental one.

One of the things that I must write about is the fact that once the surgery is done, there’s no turning back. With most of the stomach having been removed, theres hardly any room for food. The width of your new stomach pouch is 14 mm. So you are able to eat and drink very little. As time goes by, theres room for about half a cup at each meal.

However, I would be lying if I did not write about the mental anguish and longing for food that comes everyitme I eat. I sit with my family and yearn for a full plate, not three or four bites of food.

Along those lines, I end up eating my food cold. It takes that long to eat it now. The pain is real.

But not all is bad, I am now down 47 pounds and learning to make better choices. Protein intake is at top of my list every single day. Then water. Then anything else. I also make sure to take my supplements daily as the level of nutrients absorption diminishes after surgery and the chances of vitamin and mineral deficiency increase.

If you are looking into this procedure, I urge to do some research. Nothing is the same after it, therefore you must be ready to accept the pros and cons from it. It wont be easy but is definitely doable. With patience and a positive attitude, you too will see the results and will begin to enjoy your new body and life.

Til next time,

ThatMrsJones

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Dreaming

The time has finally come for me to begin my journey in writing. Like millions of other people, I too dream of becoming a writer. But, not just any writer, a world known writer.

How and where do I start? What should I write about? Will anyone read my blog?

This were the questions I had over 6 years ago. I had talked myself into becoming a blogger then, I stopped. Well, here we are in 2019 and I am just now finally starting my blog. I confess I felt scared and overwhelmed. Why would anyone be interested in what I write, right? Aren’t there lots and lots of bloggers, vloggers, freelancers and writers? Why would my thoughts matter? I had convinced myself that the thought of writing was simply ludicrous, it was dumb and a waste of time. But, as time went by, I realized that fear would stop me from my dream. Fear was a barrier and the root f my doubts. Fear has been the root of many of my fears and ultimately, my failures. Some of us were brought up with the mentality that we ought to make sure others accept us, accept our thoughts and ideas. This is a flawed way of parenting. I for one have changed how my kids see life and their own personal goals. I have made sure they are secure in their ideas, their own dreams. I no longer expect for everyone to enjoy what I write or to even look at my blog. I now understand that by simply choosing to “blog” I have crossed my comfort zone and can’t be more proud of myself. I will be blogging often, about most topics. I am a woman with her own mind that can’t be constrained to something specific, but rather I am like butterfly: moving from one flower to the next. How far will you go to reach your dream? What steps will you take?

With luv,

ThatMrsjones

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